I think I will make edible finger paint tomorrow & let Xander create his first masterpiece!
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One thing that I can’t understand either is how David tries to make me feel like shit for still living with my parents yet for the 2 and a half years that we were together he completely lived off of me & his grandmother.
For two and half years (actually longer because his situation was already like this when we got together) he was jobless and lived back and forth between his grandmother, his dad, myself & our one friend. Through all this he didn’t pay rent, he didn’t buy his own food, didn’t buy anything by himself, completely took advantage of everything around him, barely tried to get a job (even when I was pregnant and he knew he had a responsibility coming) but now that he’s been working for the past 10 months for the first time in years and has to move out on his own because his sister kicked him out he’s this almighty king?
No. Just shut the fuck up and turn your ego down a notch. I may still live at home with my son but I do everything for that child. I’ve done more for Xander this past week than David has done for him since he was born.
He just fucking disgusts me. It’s disgusting how he thinks he’s the greatest thing that’s ever walked the planet. Its disgusting how he thinks he can do no wrong. It’s disgusting that he actually thinks he’s a good dad. It’s disgusting his he actually thinks that he’s a good person and its disgusting that he thinks that the way he acts is the right way to act.
He’s disgusting. 12 notes
Can I join the no butt club?
From the park earlier! 😍 #xander #instababies
1: For or against: Co-Sleeping.
For. I absolutely love co-sleeping & it’s one of my favorite things that I decided to do. It wasn’t something that I initially planned on doing & it just happened over time, but both Xander & myself sleep better. Plus, I love waking up and the first thing I see is a smiling baby!
2: For or against: Spanking.
Against. I believe that spanking just enforces fear and not respect. A child may not do something again if you spank him/her but its not because they know why it’s wrong but because they’re afraid of getting hit.
3: For or against: Pacifiers.
Neither for or against.
4. For or against: Baby Wearing.
For! I regret not baby wearing with Xander and I’m going to with my next!
5. For or against: CIO Method.
Against. I absolutely hate hearing my baby cry and if I can comfort him in any way, I will.
6. For or against: Circumcision.
Neither for or against.
7. For or against: Adoption.
For. I think adoption is great for those who can’t have kids themselves or for those who simply want to help and be parents to those who don’t have any.
8. For or against: Baby Piercing:
Neither for or against.
9. For or against: Baby led solids
For. I started baby led weaning with Xander at 6 months but I still go back & forth between solids and purees depending on different circumstances.
10. For or against: Vaccinations.
For.
11. For or against: Smoking while pregnant.
Against. But I understand that it’s hard to quit cold turkey and that it’s actually recommended to slowly try to cut down rather than up and quitting.
12. For or against: Abortion.
Already did this one — for.
13. For or against: Co-bathing.
Neither for or against. I co bathed twice with Xander because it was just easier at the time but it wasn’t for me.
14. Cloth vs. Disposable.
I use disposables. But obviously cloth diapers are fantastic and way more eco friendly.
15. Home vs. Hospital Birth.
I had a hospital birth and had a great experience. It was comforting to know that if anything did go wrong, medical assistance was handy. But I definitely give props to those who have had or want to have home births. I personally would love to have a water birth my next one and give birth in a medical center. But I think all woman should be able to give birth the way they want too.
16. Breast vs. Bottle.
Even though I bottle feed, there’s no arguing that breast is best and I think public breast feeding needs to be accepted.
17. What type of School do you want to send your kid? Or do you want to do homeschooling?
I would love to send Xander to a private school, although I definitely don’t have the money for that, right now at least so public school it will be.
18. What are your views on discipline?
Did this one!
19. What is your method of behavior correction?
I’m going to try to help and talk Xander through his emotions and behavior.
20. How did you potty train? or How do you plan on potty training?
I haven’t started potty training yet but I plan on buying a potty and having it out before I actually start, getting Xander used to it. I was also thinking about doing some kind of reward system too. Where every time Xander goes on the potty or tries to go on the potty he’ll get a sticker on a chart and everytime he gets ‘x’ amount of stickers he gets a little prize or something along those lines.
21. What is your mealtime routine?
How many snacks or meals a day?
Did this one!
22. What is your bed time routine?
Xander goes to bed anytime between 8-9 usually. When I know he’s getting sleepy we’ll have bath time & then ill put on his lotion and get him in his Jammie’s and then I’ll lay down with him and give him a bottle and he’s usually out right after that.
23. When will you allow your kids to have sleepovers?
I think 5 is a good age. As long as I know the child and the parents where he’s sleeping over then it’s fine. I mean if he comes home from school one day and is like “Mom! Can I sleep over Ronny’s house tonight?” And I have no idea who Ronny is or what his parents are like then I’m not going too. I think this is another thing that depends on the circumstances.
24. Do you have any special rules about holidays and birthdays?
None yet!
12. For or against: Abortion.
For. I’m 100% pro choice & I don’t believe any girl or woman should be forced to grow, carry & delivery a baby if they don’t want to. No matter the circumstance as to why. I’m even more pro choice now after being pregnant & having a baby myself because I understand the difficulties and hardships of carrying & raising a baby; physically, mentally and emotionally.
18. What are your views on discipline?
I believe in gentle discipline. Re-directing, talking through emotions, etc.
25. Do you have any special traditions for holidays and birthdays?
Not yet! But I can’t wait to make some!
27. How long did it take you to get pregnant?
I didn’t try to get pregnant (although we weren’t doing anything to prevent it, stupidly). I wasn’t on birth control & we stopped using condoms (I want to say) mid July & I got pregnant late September/ early October but I didn’t find out until the beginning of November.
32. What is your greatest joy as a parent?
Seeing my son happy. Every time he smiles or laughs or does something new is a joy. I don’t even know how to express the amount of joy that motherhood has brought me. It’s one of those things that you have to experience yourself to know how it truly feels, but the while thing is a joy.
21. What is your mealtime routine? How many snacks or meals a day?
We usually do 3 meals a day, breakfast, lunch & dinner and then snack time will vary. Plus I give him a bottle about 4 times a day, usually morning, one for each nap (2 naps a day) and then for bedtime. He only ever drinks about 3-4oz at a time though.
I switch back and forth between purées and solids though for meal time. It all depends on what I’m eating or how much time I have to prepare/cook a meal.
His snacks usually consist of Gerber puffs & crunchies, gold fish, or whatever I’m munching on. He’s always trying to mooch off my plate!
- 1: For or against: Co-Sleeping
- 2: For or against: Spanking
- 3: For or against: Pacifiers
- 4. For or against: Baby Wearing
- 5. For or against: CIO Method
- 6. For or against: Circumcision
- 7. For or against: Adoption
- 8. For or against: Baby Piercing:
- 9. For or against: Baby led solids
- 10. For or against: Vaccinations
- 11. For or against: Smoking while pregnant
- 12. For or against: Abortion
- 13. For or against: Co-bathing
- 14. Cloth vs. Disposable
- 15. Home vs. Hospital Birth
- 16. Breast vs. Bottle
- 17. What type of School do you want to send your kid? Or do you want to do homeschooling?
- 18. What are your views on discipline?
- 19. What is your method of behavior correction?
- 20. How did you potty train? or How do you plan on potty training?
- 21. What is your mealtime routine? How many snacks or meals a day?
- 22. What is your bed time routine?
- 23. When will you allow your kids to have sleepovers?
- 24. Do you have any special rules about holidays and birthdays?
- 25. Do you have any special traditions for holidays and birthdays?
- 26. When did you first knew you were pregnant? Or found out you were going to be a dad?
- 27. How long did it take you to get pregnant?
- 28. How many kids do you want?
- 29. How do you cope with the stress as a parent?
- 30. What is your proudest moment as a parent?
- 31. What is your most embarrassing parenting moment?
- 32. What is your greatest joy as a parent?
- 33. What is your greatest fear about parenting?
- 34. Do you consider yourself a crunchy mom?
